Keep Calm (The Fruit of the Spirit is . . . Peace)
During our forty-six years of marriage Rich and I have experienced our share of family crises and even heartbreak. We both have a role to play in these situations.
I have two settings. I either attempt to take control and fix the problem (regardless of whether or not I know what's going on) or I panic and resort to my "Chicken Little and the Sky is Falling" routine. Neither action is helpful, they simply add annoyance and confusion.
Rich, on the other hand, is the embodiment of the statement, "keep calm and carry on." He doesn't panic but calmly does what needs doing. When the boys were younger and threw up, he would clean them up and swamp up the mess while I was outside gulping fresh air.
During really hard times Rich goes into action but relies on God to lead the way. Regardless of the seriousness of the situation or the emotional pain he is feeling he trusts God with the process and the outcome. The side-effect of his faith and dependence on God is that everyone else settles down and is either reassured, comforted, strengthened to help—whatever is needed. He has pulled my chicken-self out from under chunks of sky more times than I can count so I can release my knee-jerk reactions, turn to God and be helpful (or at least get out of the way).
I'm doing better as I get older. My husband's example has led me into a deeper trust in God, a "no matter what" kind of trust. Sometimes I still react like the sky is falling but I'm getting better.
Like a pebble dropped in a pond, the peace of God extends out from us in concentric circles gently washing over the lives He wants to touch.
"But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace."
James 3:17-18 NASB
Excerpt from: Fruit Flies in Our Faith: Nurturing and Sharing the Fruit of the Spirit